Letting Go

Letting go

does not

mean

that you

do not

care, it means you cannot live life for someone else.

We are powerless over other people and letting go is admitting that powerlessness, 

that the outcome is not in our hands.

We are not God, we cannot judge other people and letting go is to allow another 

to be a human being, to live their own life.

Letting go is not to care for, but to care about.

Letting go is to accept life on God's terms.

"How self-hood begins with a walking away,
and love is proved in the letting go."  ~ Robert Cecil Day-Lewis

We must grieve a lost love, a lost relationship, friends and family who pass away.

In the initial stages of a breakup or when a person passes away we cannot believe 

what is happening, the truth is unseen and the hurt of awareness begins to be felt.

We are in denial, reality is a shock to our whole being, we cannot believe what has 

or is happening.

Anger is the second step in the grieving process, and we question why this would happen to me.

I, me, you, God, or anyone who comes into mind or comes into view can receive the wrath 

of our anger, the blame for for all that we believe to be wrong with this world.

Anger is an argument with no answer.

Is their a solution ?, is there an alternative course of action ?, can we

bargain for a different outcome to this event is the third stage of grieving.

Promises to stop drinking or gambling or abusing, and I'll promise to be a

better person are bargains that only prolong the suffering.

To save a relationship you promise that overnight you

will go from being a bad person to being a good person.

Not likely, since you do not even know what the definition of a good person is.

The greatest loss is the mother who loses her child.

She will plead with God a million times to have Him take

her life and and restore the life of her child, if God would only bargain.

Life does not mean anything anymore and I don'tt care depression 

is the funky fourth stage of grieving.

Depression is a depressing topic that fills too many depressing books and 

the treatment of depression is better left to the depressing shrinks 

who like to prescribe medications to make everything all right.

Poor me, poor me, pour me a drink, self medicating does not relieve the pain of grieving.

There is nothing in this world that is so bad that a drink or a drug will not make worse.

Seriously, depression is a mental illness that can devastate an individual and is becoming 

a larger problem in today's society,demonstrated by the rise in the number of

suicides occurring in the world today, seek professional help as is necessary.

Acceptance is the final stage of grieving, the letting go.

The truth is not to be denied, it is to be accepted, even if it is not the truth you want to believe.

Letting go is to fear less and to love more.

The above five behaviors, usually demonstrated during the grieving process, are not a script 

to be followed, the emotions may come and go, forward and backward,  as we let go and 

get on with our lives.

Feeling the feelings is the most important part of grieving and everyone is different and there is 

no time frame which can be used to determine who has or has not properly grieved a loss.

You are allowed to grieve over and over again if that is the way you feel, 


but save some time for living in today.

"Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness.
Forgiveness is letting go of the past,
and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions." ~ Gerald Jampolsky

Letting go is remembering the past, but living in today.

Perceive today that you and God live and love in the same world.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.



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