Perfectionism

  Who are we to think

that we can compete with God.

We might think that something

is or is not perfect, but what a

Higher Power knows will be

the last word.

"Perfectionism is not a quest for the best.
It is a pursuit of the worst in ourselves,
the part that tells us that nothing we do
will ever be good enough -
that we should try again."   ~ Julia Cameron

First we must consider that perfect is a relative word.

Everyone has a different perspective on what is perfect.

You cannot please all the people all the time and remember

to include yourself in that number.

Secondly, anything we do is good enough, unless someone

else is paying you to do something different.

Sometimes it becomes impossible to work for the perfectionist.

Next, we must consider that perfectionism is a waste of time.

Why would one want to spend three days trying to perfect

one idea when you could have completed three ideas,

one each day, one day at a time, and those three ideas would be

good enough to please some of the people some of the time.

How you do the job is of no consequence, a left handed and a right handed

person usually attempt to do the same job by starting it at different angles,

just remember that the goal is to get the job done.

Even between two perfectionists there is room for a happy medium.

"Perfectionism is the enemy of creation,
as extreme self-solitude is the enemy of well-being."   ~ John Updike 

Expectations become an important part of learning how to change

the bad habit of perfectionism.

Make your expectations realistic and attainable.

Lowering your expectations to make sure that you can succeed

is not a sign of imperfection in your character.

Succeeding at lesser goals usually means that you have just rearranged

your ultimate goal into smaller steps.

Perfectionism is a bad habit.

Anyone can break a habit.

Accept the new habit of peace and serenity in your life.

Accept that as one grows older, what is done is done, perfect or not.

Allow a Higher Power to select many goals and expectations to come

into your life so that you can do His/Her will.

A well rounded life that has attempted many things can be much more

rewarding than not succeeding at perfecting anything.

Life goes on, what was perfect yesterday is now perfect history

and today's expectations are in the hand of God.

Have faith that a perfect tomorrow will be given to those

that have been blessed by their Higher Power.

For those who want to live life perfectly today,

let us just say that we did.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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ME and the Boss

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Don't Quit

. Do something, anything,
and be happy with what you
have learned, even if what
you did was not up to your
expectations.

As long as you try something
you will learn something.

You may learn that you must
try harder.
You may learn that you should
not try so hard.
You may learn that you need to be
better prepared to try something.
You may learn that it was too easy,
no challenge.
You may learn that it was too hard,
too frustrating.
You may learn that it was enjoyable
and worth a repeat.
You may learn that it was a terrible experience,
not worth the effort and definitely not something to be done again.

It does not matter what you are doing; work, play, chores, relationships, teaching the children,
there will be many different ways of attempting to complete your goal. Rate your task; easy, hard, impossible, and take on the easiest ones first, unless an urgency is demanding your attention. Completing an easy task teaches you a sense of rewarding accomplishment and will motivate you
to try to learn more. Be prepared. Even the easiest jobs or chores can be made easier if you are
using the right tool for the job. Ask for help, someone may have done that job before and they may know a few tricks and shortcuts that can make mole hills out of a mountain. Let a pro do it.
If a job needs immediate attention and you do not have six years to wait until you get your doctorate in how to solve the world’s problems, ask a pro and let a qualified expert make your life easier.
You will know that the job was done right, the job was done on time, and that you can take credit
for knowing your limits. You did not quit, the expert just happened to be the right tool for the job
and you were smart enough to know which tool to use.

"Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds,
can change the outer aspects of their lives.” ~ William James

Things will change, whether you get involved or not. Today, decide what you want to get involved
in and do your best to make it better. Start with getting involved in your own happiness. Learn to know the difference between what you need and what you want and if you do not know, ask your Higher Power to teach you the difference. Do not get involved in other peoples affairs, unless ask
to. Today do not say "I know." Today, do the will of your Higher Power. Today, open your heart
and love those who need it. Today, pray for the sick and miserable that they may find peace in their own back yard instead of trying to seek their happiness by trashing your garden.

Today, don't quit, learn from the experience.

Happiness is having friends that care and love to share.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

ME and the Boss

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