Monday, February 17, 2014

Recovery...as this drunk sees it #2

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 Addictive disease contains
all FIVE conditions that are
required to qualify as a disease.

 1) PRIMARY: The disease is not a symptom
of another condition, and exists independently
 of other disease processes.

 2) CHRONIC: There is no cure. Abstinence
is necessary to stop the behavioral and physical
progression of the disease.

 3) PROGRESSIVE: Signs and symptoms
become more severe over time.

 4) PRONE TO RELAPSE: Once the disease
has progressed to the point where the symptoms
are obvious, it becomes abnormal for the individual
not to use.The individual must learn how to not use
and must have a preventive program in place to prevent relapse.

 5) POTENTIALLY FATAL: All addictive diseases can kill
either directly or indirectly.

 There are also TWO dominant characteristics of addiction.

 1) TOLERANCE: As the result of cellular adaptation at the neuron level
in the brain, it becomes necessary to have an increase in use to achieve
the same affect.

2) PHYSICAL DEPENDENCY: Progressively severe withdrawal symptoms
of which the most important are those which originate in the brain itself.
As an addictive disease progresses it is these characteristics, tolerance
and dependency, which motivate continued use rather than anything else
in the addict/alcoholics life.

 The above is a definition, alcoholics are individuals, therefore, every alcoholic
has his own diagnosis, his own time frame for the progression of the disease,
the different nuances of this and that, which they (the alcoholic) use to deny
that they have a problem.

Every alcoholic is a square peg trying to fit into a round hole,(or visa verse).

As regards the Chronic part of the definition, medication may help some, hypnosis may
help some, but once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic and the only sane way to survive
the disease is not to drink or drug, ever.

 Progression can be illustrated by noting that some teenagers begin way out of control
and are dead by the time they are twenty-one. Some addicts and alcoholics start out hard
and hardy and have a good long run before the problems catch up to them. Some start out
slowly and go many years, with few problems, until they reach a point where they are sick
and tired of being sick and tired. There are exceptions: the traffic accident victim who is
severely hurt and requires large doses of pain killers to survive and when they are healed,
they are hooked. Grandma and Grandpa retire, never drank, now they decide to have a toddy
to help them sleep; the kids finally catch on and send them to the rehab.

The Prone to Relapse part of the disease definition is a topic that will be discussed in a series
of separate blogs after more discussions about the bad behaviors of alcoholics. The only constant
is that all of the victims will deny that they have a problem.

 Alcoholism is the only disease that tells you that you do not have a disease.

The pain, the agony, the suffering and the misery are always caused by someone else.
Be sympathetic of the addict who is trying to quit drinking and drugging, but remember,
tough love may be the only sane way that you have to defend yourself from the alcoholic.
Please remember, they are sick people trying to get well, not bad people trying to become good.

The following is a link to one of the more highly recommended rehabilitation facilities on the east
coast of the United States.

http://www.fathermartinsashley.com

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Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

ME and the Boss

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Monday, February 10, 2014

Recovery...as this drunk sees it #1
"The cost of living has gone up another dollar 
a quart." 
~ W. C. Fields

The first word that needs to be understood 
before anyone  can even begin to deal with 
an addict/alcoholic is:

Denial....

D - don't
 
E - even
 
N -no (know)
I - I
 
A - am
 
L - lying

How can you tell when an alcoholic is lying??
 
- His lips are moving.

   Most people are good, moral, upstanding individuals who know the difference between right and wrong. Under the influence, alcoholics forget everything that has to do with making the right choice and they go into a survival mode. If it takes lying, cheating and stealing to get more of the substance that their bodies crave, they will do what they must to get it. The denial system of survival set up by the sick and suffering may and usually involves and affects everyone around them.
   Those who allow (or refuse to admit) the alcoholics immoral behaviors become the enablers of the addict/alcoholic. Enablers, (husband, wives, parents, bosses, friends? employers, significant others)
 
are in themselves very sick and need education or treatment just as badly as the alcoholic.

   Rehabilitation means to return an individual back to a sane and normal moral existence.

   During the rehabilitation process education means to discover those behaviors that are destructive to the alcoholic and those around him, and compare them to the behaviors that are acceptable.
 
Treatment is the series of exercises and activities suggested to change the identified negative behaviors into acceptable ones.
   After the in-patient treatment, most good rehab facilities will have a new lifestyle plan for the client to put into place upon their release from the facility. This next phase of recovery is a topic for future posts.
   One drink for the alcoholic who is trying to rehabilitate themselves means a total destruction of any progress that may have been made towards the return to a normalized behavior pattern. Often, a relapse by an addict/alcoholic, may add insult to injury. The affected has, by relapsing, added additional guilt and shame to their already diminished egos.Treatment for the relapsed addict/alcoholic (a client who has completed at least one prior stay at a 28 day facility) is a totally different and specific entity in the rehab/treatment field. Some of the more prominent rehabilitation centers in the
 United States have separate satellite locations or separate on campus facilities specifically assigned to relapse clients.

   Rehab, education, and treatment are to no avail if the affected do not cooperate.

   You can tell a drunk, but you can't tell him much.

   Although this article is addressed to the Addict/Alcoholic, most of the attitudes and behaviors described can be attributed to those who suffer from addictive personalities. It is not what substance one uses, but how they abuse the substance. Gambling, food, sex, workaholic, or any other obsessive compulsive behavior that cause an individual to neglect normal responsibilities or make improper moral judgements, are included in the treatable realm of addictive disorders.
 
   Many rehabilitation centers are exclusive to one type of addiction or to a select few addictions that they deem to be equally well treated by their program.
 
   Be aware that some of the addictions may be better treated in a clinic situation . Sex and Love addicts and the dual diagnosed usually do better when they are in controlled therapy sessions (Self-help programs) in addition to their twelve step program work. Many self help meetings are not advertised the way AA meetings are publicly scheduled and may need to be sought out by seeking professional guidance. This secrecy is not to hide from public scrutiny to avoid the social stigma, it is done to keep sexual predators and untreated deviates from stalking the vulnerable individuals who need to attend the meetings. Doctors and lawyers have a referral system they use to keep their self help meetings limited to only those in their profession. This type of activity is against the traditions of AA, however, this type of exclusivity only helps to underscore the negative stigma that alcoholism has in the general society.

The following link is to one of the most highly recommended Drug and Alcohol treatment centers in theUnited States. This facility is located in the eastern mid-Atlantic states area.
http://www.fathermartinsashley.com

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

Michael_e

Sunday, February 2, 2014

Head To The Hills


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 He who stays in the valley will never see over the hill.

 Many of life's journeys have milestones that are

marked by hill tops.

 Be smart and do not to judge your life by one hilltop

 that you have reached.

 Winning the championship game? 

The birth of a child or grandchild?

 The pinnacle of success?

 The age of forty? (Seventy ???)

 Retirement?

 Be wise to know that this hill top is just a better vantage point

to see where you might want to go next.

 Celebrate the milestone.

 Have gratitude that you have reached that milestone. 

Use the knowledge and strength you have gained from climbing the small hills

to reach for the summit of the tallest mountain on the horizon.

Many say that when you go over the hill you begin to pick up speed

going down the other side.  Use that speed as momentum to start up the next hill.

As long as you are moving forward with your head held high, and your eyes are fixed

on the next milestone you will be able to cross the lowest valley in your life in peace and comfort.

Up hill or down hill, never travel alone.

When life puts a fork in the road have a someone help you read the map.

If they have traversed this swamp before your hope is they know the shortest route

to higher ground.

Higher ground may be just as good as a hill if you are up to your tush in alligators.

If you had ask your friend for advice at the last fork in the road, maybe you would

not have found yourself in the swamp.

Where you think you are going and where your Higher Power wants or lets you go may

be two separate directions.

Pray for guidance.

The stories of the wisest masters tells us that if you want to find your way out of the desert,

follow God.

Whether you are in the valley of despair or on the highest mountain,

today's journey will begin with the first step.

What you have earned from yesterdays travels will pay the road tolls for today's journey.

 If you do not learn and earn from today's journey, 

tomorrow's forecast may be down hill and out of control. 

Celebrate, keep your head up, focus on the next hill top,  move a muscle, change a thought,

and live your life to it's fullest.

Life is a roller coaster ride.
Sit in the first car.
Fill the car with friends and family.
Throw your arms up in the air,
and scream as loud as you can from the top of every hill.

Enjoy the ride.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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 ME and the Boss

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