Boundries

. Love is enjoying togetherness,

having mutual respect and knowing

that a partnership is made up of two.

Boundaries are the mutual respect

part of love.

Everyone needs a boundary.

Do not let your love of another

be so intense that you suffocate the soul

of the one you love.

Do not let someone's love be so demanding

that it suffocates your soul.

Stress is the alarm that a boundary is reached. When the boundary is reached,

politely reduce the stress. To reduce the stresses communicate your feelings,

good and bad, to the one you love. Let those people who are stressing you out

know that you are having bad feelings as a result of their behaviors. To be free

of destructive stress, don't sweat the small stuff and realize that all stuff is small.

How important is it??

To reduce the stress, go to where there is love. Prayer and meditation will vanquish

all stress. Understand that mutual respect is not a license to abuse. Understand that

love is not a license to abuse. Just because you are the boss, you are married, you are

the parent, it does not give you the right of ownership to the soul and the will of another

of God's creatures. Learn that you can help grown the boundaries of the one you love.

Be mean, be nasty, be disrespectful and the boundaries of others will become very

wide and very high. Be kind, be loving, have patience and tolerance and the boundaries

of the ones you love will become narrow and low. The more you love the closer you can

get to the heart of the one's you love and lower the boundaries become.

"The spiritual meaning of love is measured by what it can do.
Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew.
Love is meant to bring us closer to God."      ~ Deepak Chopra

Today, when you are with others, display mutual respect.

Today, always remember, mutual respect begins with you.

Today, feel your feelings, and do not let yourself become stressed out.

Today, love.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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ME and the Boss

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Unacceptable

Who are we

to say that anything

in God's world

is unacceptable??

A Higher Power

created this world

exactly the way it is

and our opinion

is of little significance.

The sun will rise,

the tides will turn,

and people will be people.

The only unacceptable thing that I can change is my behavior and my attitude.

"Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation;
it does not mean running away from the struggle.
On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes,
with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering,
of psychological complexes and injustices."    ~ Paul Tournier

There are three guarantees in life; death, unacceptable childish behaviors and taxes.

As unacceptable as death may be to us we must accept that it is inevitable.
We mourn for those whom we loved that have died, we collect their strength
and add it to ours to make us stronger and better able to do the will of our Higher Power.
Have faith, a Higher Power assures us that no spirit departs this world without having
made the world we live in a better place.

"That is the definition of faith -
acceptance of that which we imagine to be true,
that which we cannot prove."                                ~ Dan Brown

Children learn their behaviors from the examples they see. If your child's behaviors
are unacceptable, improve the examples that they see. To have children cooperate
with you use words that are acceptable, such as "I love you," "Please," Thank you,"
and "How can we make this better for everyone."

Children are innocent until you make them wrong.

"Seeing people as innocent is the greatest gift
you can give another human being:
the gift of acceptance."      ~  Rhonda Britten

The last unacceptable guarantee is taxes. When people find things unacceptable
they ask for change. Does having a different leader using different words to describe
the same issues constitute change? We should never have left a Higher Power out of
our schools or out of our government.

"Accept the place the divine providence has
found for you, the society of your contemporaries,
the connection of events."                           ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today, point out the unacceptable.
Today, do not get angry, ask politely for change.
Today, do something, but do not rely on your neighbor to grieve for your loss,
raise your children or pay your taxes.

"Happiness can exist only in acceptance."     ~ George Orwell


Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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Authentic

. Faking it until you make it,

may get you through the first round,

but to win and to get to the

championship round

you must be authentic.

Actual, factual, the real deal,

the honest Indian, bona fide, genuine,


and guaranteed to be nothing but the original

and/or a perfect replication of the masters work.

Being true to one's own personality, spirit, or character is living out
the will of your Higher Power, being the authentic you.

"The authentic self is the soul made visible."    ~   Sarah Ban Breathnach

Not like the Joneses', or not like your best friend, or not like the celebrity,
and definitely not like the pretend person you thought you wanted to be,
but the person who is kind, loving and is of service to self, others
and to their Higher Power.

Children play at dress up, play at cowboys and Indians, doctor and nurse
was always my favorite, and teacher preacher suited many a fantasy,
but most adults learn to put aside the acting when their pride says that it is
time to be me. Some people never grow up, some are raised by over protective,
suffocating parents, and some use drugs and alcohol to avoid reality, and sadly,
some kill themselves because they feel like they never fit in,
they believe that they do not belong.

Round pegs, square pegs, round holes, square holes, however,
God also makes oval shapes and holes, star shapes and holes
and you name the shape, God made a hole for it to fit into,
therefore, if God made you, you will find a fit somewhere,
you do belong.

Some people find themselves without having to search, the average person
must be patient and tolerant because the search for themselves is a constant
and never ending journey, the journey called life. As long as you are being
authentically you there is no need to act like or try to look like someone
who you are not.

You must change; all people grow older and hopefully wiser.
You do not try to change just by moving (geographical), by finding new acquaintances
to emulate or by doing things differently because you couldn't be happy with the old routine.
You accept change because your Higher Power will give you the chance,
you must just decide which choice is best.

The authentic you will make a choice that is best for your soul.

"An authentic life is the most personal form of worship.
Everyday life has become my prayer."      ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach

Be authentic, be kind.
Be authentic, be loving.
Be authentic, be tolerant and patient.
Be authentic, be forgiving.
Be authentic, be the person your Higher Power wants you to be.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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A Way of Life

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"When you realize

how perfect everything is

you will tilt your head back

and laugh at the sky.”

~ Buddha

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Thinking is a way of life.
You do not do anything
without thinking about it first.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life,
think about it and make it a way of life that you want.
Today is the day to love your family.
Today is the day to make a friend.
Today is the day to do the will of your Higher Power.

First, think about it, next, do what is right.
Yesterday is history and the resentments you made are yours.
If you were angry, fearful, jealous, envious, mean, spiteful,
it was because you had a thought that has become your way of life.
When you are unhappy, you are saying that you know more than God does.

Move a muscle, change a thought.

If you were patient, tolerant, kind and loving it is because you had a thought
that has become your way of life. If your thoughts made you happy it means
that you and God are on the same page.

"What we think, we become." ~Buddha

We love our bad habits because we do not have to think about what we are doing.
Not thinking means no guilt, no shame, and no remorse.

Not thinking is a way of life.

Today, you are allowed to change your mind.
Today, you may accept the world as it is.
Today, think that the universe is perfect, God does.
What is imperfect in this world are the negative thoughts and negative actions
of people who do not think.
Think, be patient with yourself, tolerant of others and know that your Higher Power
will give you a way of live that is perfect, if you will just have positive thoughts.

Think, Think, Think.

The first thought is instinctive.
The second thought is make sure the instinct is sane and rational.
The third thought is to check and see if God would approve.

Happiness is making the good thoughts a way of life.

Happiness is helping someone help themselves.

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